I am based in central London but have also met people in the home counties, either them visiting London or me travelling out

I insist on meeting in a public place to discuss what is needed before we make any arrangement to meet privately for a session.  I always agree a safe word that can be used to instantly stop the session if something is not working.  To date no-one has had to use it.  But it is vital to provide an emergency stop for you and to allow me to push your limits with the security of knowing you are alright.  This is particularly important for people who like to struggle against their spanking.

Most relationships are non-sexual, even if they involve erotic spanking.  I find administering a spanking deeply satisfying – akin to but different from sexual satisfaction.  There have been two people where we were sexually attracted to each other and so also enjoyed a sexual relationship alongside the spanking relationship

The hand is a wonderful implement and can produce many sensations.  It is entirely possible to deliver a wonderful spanking just with the hand.  I also particularly like using a hairbrush if emphasis is needed.  Anything used is always agreed in advance and consensual.  I have used the following implements where the scenario has been appropriate: belt; paddle; strap; birch; crop; cane; slipper.  Requests always entertained

A spanking usually starts over clothes and concludes on the bare bottom.  A naked bottom or full nakedness adds to the loss of control and some like a spanking to include a sense of humiliation and nakedness can also help enhance that.  But it is a matter of choice and always discussed in advance of a first session

There is no rule.  However, the vast majority like to meet a couple of times a month.  That seems to be the perfect frequency to satisfy needs.  More of less frequent is no issue, but the typical is very consistent

There is no rule here.  My preference is to stay in touch between meetings to track progress and stay connected.  That has meant daily contact for some.  Others have preferred to be silent between meetings

I can meet wherever is comfortable for you.  That has varied in the past between house calls or using hotels or apartments in London.  I can advise on hotels and apartments that are good for discretion and have good soundproofing.   In the event you seek a particularly strong discipline spanking and like to make a lot of noise, I have access to a suitable venue

There are usually three core elements.  Conversation to catch up with each other, what has been happening and what is needed.  Then preparation for the spanking. That can involve waiting quietly so you can think about what’s going to happen – anticipation is a significant part of the experience.  If an erotic spanking is going to happen, often a massage can be a good preparation to enter the right mind state.  The third element is the spanking and aftercare.  Aftercare just means spending time together whilst returning to a normal emotional state, usually involved being held, conversation, or enjoying a cup of tea or drink together

My favourite position is the classic over the knee spanking.  It provides a great human connection as we can feel each other’s warmth, there is something perfect about an upturned bottom, I enjoy feeling you wriggle and jerk as the spanking takes place, and it provides good opportunities to enhance the experience by holding you down.  Other positions also work very well and have their place.  They include the following: bending over a chair or sofa; lying down on a bed with a pillow underneath to raise your bottom; bending over free standing, or holding the edge of a table or desk; lying on your back with your legs raised; etc.  There are endless possibilities and a lot of fun ways to use furniture

This can really enhance spankings, be they for discipline, funishment, erotic or therapy. It can be light restraint – wrists or ankles loosely tied for example – or can be used to immobilize someone entirely. It is something to only try once we know each other well.  Probably about half of the people I have met want this included. Often it is used occasionally, to underline a particular event perhaps.  Knowing that it is a possibility really enhances the butterflies and anticipation that can build before a meeting

I generally do not charge.  I do expect you to help meet costs if you can – if we use a hotel to meet for example.  But I am sympathetic to circumstances.  I would not expect a hard-up student to contribute.  But if you are a high-flying lawyer then I would expect a contribution.  Once or twice, someone has wanted to pay for the service.  They wanted to pay to underline that that they sought the service voluntarily and it made them feel more able to ask for me to reproduce the fantasy they wanted to play out

No, it is purely for my pleasure.  I work as a contract senior manager in major projects, with clients in the private and public sector.  I am also a Non-Executive Director of a technology company and have another role as an advisor of a family wealth office.  Before freelancing I worked in the engineering industry and management consultancy

I pay close attention to my spankee.  I get satisfaction from their reactions to what I am doing to them. Some people find relatively light spanking plenty painful enough, and others really like something firmer

No.  Sorry guys.  Just not my thing

Yes. Very.  When I started spanking, I was surprised to find how common spanking interests are. Nonetheless, it is still something most people are not comfortable sharing with there friends, families, or employers. I understand how important discretion is to people.  If this matters to you, a good ground rule is to avoid specifics. You can know someone remarkable well and yet not know the whole identify. So “I am a lawyer” is good but “I work for company x” is too specific. I don’t mind how you contact me – set up an anonymous email or use an anonymous App if discretion worries you at all